* Astonished to see that Australia is ranked as the third highest nation for reported sexual assault. (15%)
* We need to focus on the messages that men are getting and about how they relate to women. We also need to focus on what messaging men are getting about women and about what kind of women get raped.
We are in need of a cultural shift. It is time we remove the shame and the stigma associated with sexual assault. It’s not uncommon for victims of sexual assault to be allocated a level of responsibility. Questions such as; “What were you wearing? Was it appropriate” “What did you say to them (the attacker)?” “How much had you had to drink?” can be asked in response to ...view middle of the document...
I think the men are dressed in provocative ways. Does this mean that I can touch them? If they’re not wearing shirts, are they inviting sexual contact? No! Gender aside it’s not ok to take the way someone dresses or behaves as a form of consent. It is not consent.
· We don’t want anybody to tell us what to do. We don’t want to be told what to wear and how to act, not to drink in order to prevent rape. I think we should be telling men not to rape women.
· It’s not about not saying “no” it’s about whether they say “yes”
· Consent is defined as the act of giving permission for something to happen. It’s not about saying “no” and fighting as much as you can. It’s about whether the party is whole-heartedly agreeing. We need to stop defining consent as the act of saying no and start viewing it as an enthusiastic agreement in relation to sexual practices. Until someone says “YES” no one has the right to touch them. Clothes, behaviour, past sexual experiences have no relevancy.
· Stop creating loopholes and start finding a way to prevent it. By giving the perpetrators an excuse, we’re conditioning all potential attackers to believe that they can get away with something like this.
Questioning what women can do to prevent violence against them is wrong. It’s not about what women can say or do to prevent being attacked. We need to turn that paradigm upside down. Society needs to focus on the values that men are practicing and about how they relate to women. We also need to focus on what messages men are receiving about women and stop the questions of what “kind” of women get raped. Most importantly, we have to redefine what masculinity means. Rape is not about evil in the world. It’s about power and control. The messages that men get around masculinity from a young age are too often about violence and about exerting power and control. We need to challenge the definition of masculinity as inherently violent. We can’t keep telling our children that it’s ok for boys to rough around and harass girls because “they like them” and that “boys are just being boys”. Already, we’re creating this early excuse for boys to behave in a certain way because that’s what society expects of them.
In spite of most levels of society embracing gender equality , there is still this minority belief that men are superior to women. I am not a bleeding heart feminist. I don’t hate men; I don’t think women are superior. But I believe in equality for both genders, that’s what we’ve been fighting for, for years. But somewhere, for some deep in their subconscious, for others at the forefront of their mind, there is still that belief that women are lesser. There is an urge to dehumanize a woman. This behaviour is the reason why, in some cultures, women are shamed into silence and why we underestimate the size of the problem in many countries where stigma and blame are attached to sexual assault and women fail to report it.
In India and...